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Fear Of Public Speaking Sucks

Fear of Public SpeakingFear of public speaking really sucks but luckily there are a few ways to get around that. Let’s face it, if you are in any business you have to talk to people whether one on one or in front of a large audience.  Especially when you are successful, more and more event organizer will want to have you as a guest speaker to come and share your story or give trainings.  It seems to come with exponential growth. The more you become a leader of influence, the more you’ll be on the stage and at one point or another you’ll have no choice but to tackle on your own fear of public speaking.

Before you get on stage or in front of any audience, know your stuff, I can’t stress that enough.  If you don’t know what you’re talking about it’s going to show in your body language by how uncomfortable you are and people will sense your fear of public speaking.  One of the best thing to do when you know you’re about to “perform” is to outline your speech. Think of it as your story line. You want to be able to have your main structure and be able wonder off a little bit but always coming back to your main story line.

Having a PowerPoint or Keynote point form slide show can be a huge asset to keep you on track. Notice I said point form and not the whole story. You want to convey messages to your audience without boring them by reading long slides. Ideally if you can memorise your whole speech that would be the best case scenario, that way you can fully engage with the audience while you’re delivering your content.

Side Note! When you give a speech to a crowd it is important that they can see your face. Don’t let yourself become distracted by other activity in the room.

You can learn a lot by watching and observing other people perform. A great website to see lots of various guest speakers, from all walks of life who share their personal expertise from every discipline, from science to global issues is TED.com. Essentially TED is a non profit organization that invites the world’s most inspiring people to give powerful talks (usually 18 minutes or less). I actually really enjoy watching them. Some of them will actually share how they beat their fear of public speaking.

Something else you can do if you really want to kick the fear of public speaking is to practise. Yes, practise makes perfect. You can start as little as standing in front of a mirror in your home. You can deliver your speech in front of a camera then watch later and take notes.

If you want more feedback and interacting with other people, then I recommend you check out ToastMasters. Toastmasters International is a world leader in communication and leadership development. There are over 14,000 clubs worldwide, in over 122 countries, so more than likely there’s one near you and they offer learn by doing hands on experiences.

Nothing stops your from doing other forms of public speaking to help you beat your fear of public speaking. When I teach the self defense program in high school for example: I’m using my background as a martial arts instructor yet because I’m in charge to lead the class, the side effects are gaining more experience and becoming better at public speaking. The same would apply if you’re in fitness, a dancer, a realtor or any skill set that you have, if you can share it with someone and teach it, you are public speaking on a small scale.  So don’t get the fear of public speaking get to you.

Fear Of Public Speaking Is Real

Understanding how the body works helps you to defeat the fear of public speaking.  Our bodies natural fear response system came up millions of years ago. So, when you’re afraid, the fight or flight syndrome kicks in. The adrenaline rushes through your body sending all the blood flow to your muscles in order to fight the saber tooth tiger or run away from it.  When that happens there’s less blood flow going to your brain because you’re in survival mode. You’ll notice that by shaking, being fidgety, perhaps wanting to throw up, etc. More about that in the book Crucial Conversations.  Or you can get the Crucial Conversation audiobook version here.

Side Note! Familiarize yourself with the venue where you will speak. If a microphone is not available, discover how well your voice carries.

A few strategies to deal with that state of anxiety is to reassure yourself that you are not in a state of danger that in fact you are in a safe place. If there’s one thing to remember out of all this, it’s how to get back into a relaxed mode and you do that by asking yourself a simple question. Like: “What do I really want?”  By asking that question, you will force the blood flow to go back to your brain and get out of that adrenaline rush state.

It’s best to combine that with breathing exercises. Breathe in and out very slowly, counting to four or five on each inhale and exhale. Do this up to six times and you will feel more relaxed and calm. When you’re brand new at this, it will be a whole roller coaster of emotions but overtime, like anything, you’ll get better at it.

Some public speakers have the ability to be powerful and seems to have no fear of public speaking. If you want to be among the best, implementing what you’ve just learn will help you do that. You can take the bull by the horns and get over your fear of public speaking by applying those tricks. All the best!

What about you, what other techniques did you use to deal with your fear of public speaking?  Share it with us down below.

Mindset and Leadership For Your Business

Mindset and Leadership Quote by Zig ZiglarMindset and leadership skills are crucial to be successful in any business.  It’s important to first realize that we are bombarded by negative media, news and sometime surrounding therefore it’s easy to get dragged down by this “junk food for the mind”.  After all, it’s so easy, you don’t even have to look for it and it comes for you.

You have to make a daily conscious effort to filter out the bad and focus on the positive and when you know how to do it, it’s not that difficult.  It can be anything, such as great news, being grateful for the things that you already have and/or a regular dose of healthy thoughts can go a long way.  A great site to see cool innovative information on all types of topics is called Ted Talks. Their slogan goes by Ted; Ideas Worth Spreading!

Side Note! A true leader always leads by example and always assumes responsibility whether good or bad.

Essentially it’s a non profit organization that invites the world’s most inspired thinkers from each area of expertise to gives powerful talks (usually 18 minutes or less) from every discipline and culture, from science to global issues.  Their goal is to get amazing positive ideas out there to spark interesting conversation.  The guest speakers bring creative solutions from their life experience and it’s worth seeing.

I like to say it’s like giving your brain a healthy sandwich.  It’s food for your mind and positive food for the mind, is the equivalent of eating a nice healthy meal for your body.

Speaking of healthy sound bites for our mind, one of the Youtube user that has lots of various types of vision board for positive affirmation is the user “HDMindMovies” formerly known as “Iamvibration”.  That user creates awesome mindset and leadership subliminal vision boards with very nice images, words of affirmation with audio.  It’s a way to manifest good things to happen for you in your life.

When it comes to physical contact, we have a saying in martial arts that goes like this: “If you control the head, the body follows!”  The same applies mentally for you; “If you control your mind great things will follow.” Don’t ask me how, it just does.  Ever noticed happy people usually have good things happen to them?

A good mindset and leadership quote that Zig Ziglar said that resonated well with me is: “People often say that motivation doesn’t last.  Well neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily”

I find it really summarized what I’ve been thinking, I mean, how to justify that you should listen to positive, motivational information in order to develop your mindset and leadership skills?  Well, without it, our minds get cluttered with all that negativity junk food.  Of course there’s bad things that happens every day but we don’t have to make it become our priority, we have to embrace the power of our choices through smart selection.

Mindset and Leadership Final Thoughts

Remember, to be successful in business, your mindset and leadership skills must be sharp, you need to lead people by example, show them solutions, give them hope to resolve their problems, and in order to accomplish that, your mindset has to be laser sharp and crystal clear.

What about you, what methods do you use to keep your mindset and leadership skills sharp?

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