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Common Sense Is Not The Same For Everyone

Common Sense CareerFHCommon sense is subjective and based on perception. Have you ever thought to yourself: “Well duh, this is common sense! How can’t they know this obvious piece of knowledge?”

Common sense only becomes common sense to you once you’ve learned how to think in a new specific way. As you grow, you learn a lot from your experiences which becomes valuable lifelong important lessons and skills. Not everybody walks through the same path. What can be perceived as common sense for one may not be that obvious to the next person depending on their own life’s path.

There’s so much experiences that everyone can gather over their lifetime that it’s impossible to figure out everything by yourself. You can accelerate the process of becoming Zen and more aware by learning from other people, by reading their thoughts, page by page through books or audio books.

Critical thinking also plays an integral part in order to understand and figure out common sense. The art of reasoning and questioning are to be implemented in order to figure out the true nature of the “why” things are the way they are. Have you ever heard of the Liberal Arts?

In a nutshell: Liberal Arts consist of two sets of divisions. The first one is Trivium which is a systematic method of critical thinking. It includes the first three divisions of the seven Liberal Arts which are: grammar, logic and rhetoric. The other four are called the Quadrivium and its divisions are: arithmetic, geometry, music and astronomy.

The idea was that you have to grow your knowledge from division one and make your way up to division seven but the most important ones are the Trivium which are division one to division three. In ancient times, these where considered the must know skill set to have for every free human being in order to take active part in everyday life.

With all of today’s distractions, it’s easy to slip away from what’s known as common sense as people don’t take ownership of  any responsibility for their own actions anymore. What’s worse is that if you’ve never been exposed to this sort of knowledge (Trivium), how are you expected to fully understand what’s going on around you?

 

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When I was young naïve and confused in my times of struggles, my god mother gave me a French booked called: “Les Douze Lois Cosmiques”. This book shined the light on a new and better path.  It has opened my eyes and changed my life on how I see, feel and perceive things around me. This book was the seed of awareness that led me to my continuous research and personal growth.

Unfortunately this book is only in French and really hard to find as it’s now discontinued and no longer available in libraries. You may be lucky to find it in a used book store. 

Coming back to understanding common sense and the Trivium, think of it this way; gravity is a fundamental force whether you understand it or not, it will pull stuff to the ground period. When you understand that principle regardless of what your beliefs are you can make that force work in your favor.

The same is true about the Trivium. Whether you fully understand those skills or not, they are still present and some people are using them. If you are aware of them, you can harness their benefits to your advantage by asking the right questions and figuring out the true nature of the “why” which will then lead to a new epiphany, the newly found common sense based on the new knowledge.

I would like to empower you with this gift of knowledge. If want to learn more about questioning and reasoning, listen to the words of Socrates and Plato. They both offer words of wisdoms that are over thousands of years old and yet still speaks deeply to a whole other level in today’s setting.

Their teaching will help you develop an enlighten common sense about life in general. You will learn, discover and grow a new common sense that will separate you from 80% of people that are numb to reality and unaware of these skills. It’ll bring your awareness to a whole new level and will help you deal better with “today’s common sense ignorant people”.

In summary, if you find someone doesn’t share the same “common sense” as you do, be patient, stay calm, take your time and educate the reasoning behind that “common sense” to the person. The more you become aware of any topics, the more patient you should become when teaching them with someone who sees this for the first time so be honourable as you know something that they don’t.

May this new knowledge help you in your professional life on how to deal properly with everyday hard situations and your personal life where you can take advantage of these lifelong learnt skills to better manage your emotions and overall become a better Zen, informed, understanding, compassionate and patient person.

These teachings have helped me in so many ways to grow and hopefully you will get the most out of these skills like I did.

What about you, what is your definition of common sense?

Reward Yourself For A Job Well Done!

Reward YourselfDo you plan to reward yourself after you accomplish a goal of yours?

It’s important to reward yourself and acknowledge your own credibility when you accomplish an achievement. Whether it’s big or small a reward should be in direct proportion of the goal that you achieved. The reason for that is to reward the good behaviour. Yes, I know it almost sounds like we’re training a dog but in reality our brain associates rewards with pleasure which will make you do that behaviour more often.

If you look at the internet addiction video by DNews, we can see how this pain versus reward can play for or against us. In the case of internet addiction, or gambling or anything like that it’s bad however if you use kind of the same attitude to train your mind to get something amazing but only after going through some sort of “pain”, you can make wonders. You’re just using your own “mind technology” to your advantage.

Reward Yourself Carrot On StickIt’s like if you’re sitting on a donkey holding onto a stick and at the end of the stick there’s a rope with a carrot on it. You dangle the carrot in front of its nose and it’ll go forward. You can ride the donkey all the way to a top of a mountain. The donkey will go the extra mile to get a piece of that carrot and once at the top, you let it have the carrot.

Now in a concrete work example, this is how I’ve done it. I absolutely love travelling, exploring new places and living new experiences so I knew that this was a pretty good reward for me. I gave myself a goal to create one hundred informative articles for my blog as well as a videos version of my articles for my Youtube channel. I’ve never done this before and I wouldn’t consider myself a writer or anything.

Actually, I just like to learn how things work so I know a lot about how internet and marketing works. The “mountain path” for me was to train myself to follow a strict schedule, write, record, edit, upload, optimize my site everyday from Monday to Friday, for twenty weeks, and be super disciplined to follow my routine, which I was never able to do in the past.

Side note here, I think it took me over ten years to actually follow my own advice. Remember you are your own bottle neck to your own success.

Okay coming back, my carrot was my trip, I didn’t know where and I didn’t know the details. All I knew was that after my one hundredth video, I was out, I was going somewhere. Well, it wasn’t a super easy ride, I faced a whole bunched of obstacles, mainly myself but I kept my eyes on the prize which was dangling in front of me the whole time (figuratively speaking). I went the extra mile every step of the way, to earn that trip.

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By doing this amount of work, I was able to justify my travelling expense because it is now a reward for a job well done. Today, right now, this is my one hundredth video and I’m super happy and excited for accomplishing this and I’m happy to share with you that I chose to go on a boat cruise in the Caribbean. I’ve never done this before so I’m super excited.

As a result of this exercise I can now not only speak about my theories of my marketing techniques but I can also point to my personal experience which is hands on, tested and implemented. I can also speak from my personal experience about the ups and downs of this journey, the challenges that I faced and the sense of accomplishment that I got.

I rewired my brain into a more efficient a better productive machine to follow my own routine. I’ve now created a good habit or a “healthy addiction” so to speak, which is to create and deliver great value.

For me this milestone is a new beginning and it feels really nice to deliver positive information that I know can help someone else. On that note, I have a reward to collect; I’ll be back in a couple weeks after my vacation. In the mean, always remember to reward yourself for a job well done!

What about you, when you reward yourself, what will you chose to do?

Keep A Positive Mindset & Share Your Skills Before It’s Too Late

Positive MindsetDo you possess any special skills? Do you have something that you’re passionate about? What I’m trying to know from you is what you really like and love, so you can go ahead and record that passion and share it with the world.

With Youtube, everything can be thought, well core concepts at least. The idea is that now is your time to shine, not tomorrow. Get in your element and just press record on your camera then upload it to your account, over time people will get to know you for your passion and talk to you about it.

Remember your prime time is always now, today in the present, not tomorrow because you never know what tomorrow will be like.

The reason I’m saying this is because I recently found out that my high school classmate’s sister passed away last week at the age of only 34 years old. She perished from a stroke while running on the treadmill, leaving behind her couple month old newly-wed husband and their two little ones.

It is a very sad story to which I send my deepest condolences to all her family and friends. This unfortunate event reminds us that life is precious, very fragile and that anything can change overnight. We’ve got to be grateful for what we have, tell the ones we love we love them, focus on the positive aspects of life and keep marching forward.

Remember, your prime time is now, not tomorrow and if you’re lucky enough to grow old and have grand children you’ll want to be able to share stories of your “prime time” talking about what you used to do way back when! Inspire people through teaching your skill set while you can.

For me never thought I’d like teaching, my father was a school teacher and never had any interests what so ever. Turns out it was the method and subject of teaching that I wasn’t fawned of. Over time, I started sharing my passion in martial arts, then got paid to teach self defence classes to high schools students.

I now realise that I like to share the knowledge that I’ve acquired overtime with people who wants to learn more about it whether in self defence, business, internet marketing, network marketing, or whatever other concepts that life has to offer. I have so much to offer and so can you. It feels really nice to know that your skills can help someone else.

It may be a little uncomfortable at first, especially if you’re getting out of your comfort zone for the first time. But over time, you’ll get more experience and the reward and satisfaction of helping others will grow significantly. It’s all about mind over matter!

After all, you and I are only here on this blue planet, travelling at 1,280 km per second in the universe, once. We might as well make the best of it, enjoy and cherish every moment as it can be taken away in a snap.

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Coming back to what I was saying about cherishing every moments, you’ve got to write your own “story” and a good way to do that, instead of keeping a journal (which records the past events), think of writing tomorrow’s chapter before it happens (this way you’re shaping your future, the way you want). Then when tomorrow comes, it’s your responsibility to make that chapter become reality.

It’s kind of a different approach to do goal setting; this way it’s more like telling a story from your own book with you being the lead character superstar. Depending on where you stand in your life, perhaps you’ll write or are already writing “that book” together with a special someone where together, as a team, you make your own awesome story come true.

Also keep learning new information to help you become a better person. It’s a good way to feed your mind with awesome positiveness. By changing what information you “intake” overtime you’ll know and understand more about core concepts of life.

There are challenges you will learn to handle and accept even though it can be really hard at times. This is why I like this motto so much: “It is what it is!” We can’t change the past, only the future so we’ve got to keep our heads straight up, focus and keep walking forward not looking back. Every second is the opportunity to make a better and newer choice, every second is like pressing a “reset” button to become better and make better decisions.

Another acronym that I once heard that stuck with me in was: “LUCK” and it stands for “Labour Under Correct Knowledge”. Which means that you’re in control of your own destiny while you’re here. So go ahead and challenge yourself, become the leader and show the world what you’re passionate about.

Now it’s your turn, what are you passionate about and when are you going to start sharing?

Online Education Is the Fastest Way To Learn New Skills

Online EducationOnline education can be broken down in two categories. Free and paid. Nowadays pretty much everything is available for free through search engines such as Google or Bing and video sites like Youtube or Vemeo.

We live in world of abundant knowledge available at our finger tips. The good thing about free knowledge and online education is that if you know what you’re looking for and where to look for it you can get the information right away.

The problem with this free online education method is, is if you don’t know what you’re looking for, you’ll never even think to look for it.

Hence why you could spend hours upon hours of watching and searching through mountains of information just to get that one specific gold nugget.

Now is when you’ve got to consider and factor in the value of your time. Is it worth more time to try to figure things out by yourself or is it smarter to ask someone to point you in the right direction?

The good thing about the paid online education is that often you have a problem and you seek more information by asking the questions to an expert either for advice or you have a membership to a site that offers complete courses via online education on specific topics.

By knowing exactly what you’re looking for or being sent on the right online education track, you can save a tremendous amount of your valuable time.

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More than likely if you’re somewhat like me, where you want to have your business online and are trying to get things up and running, you need to know some basics in online lingo. Like HTML for example, you don’t need to know all of it by heart but it’s good to understand the basics of it.

A really good free online education site that I’ve used to learn all kinds of stuff related to the internet, like programming languages, CSS, etc is w3schools.com On this site, it offers you a section to learn and safe place to try new code without “breaking” your website so to speak.

Another awesome free online education location to ask questions is a site called StackOverflow.com. Basically you can read through previously asked questions, or search based on keywords or topics and see the best related answers. This site focuses on programming. They also have a dedicated section for WordPress alone, which is another good place to look for answers.

If you want to learn search engine optimization, SeoInPractice.com offers a great complete web based e-book that explains SEO. You can also check out my other videos in the SEO category if you want more information in an “easy to understand way”.

As for paid online education Lynda.com is one of my absolute best choices. They bring in experts on all kinds of software and they give online courses about the specific topic.

You can watch the whole thing from beginning to the end like an actual course, or you can jump in right in the section that you really are trying to figure out.

When I have a sticky point on how to do something specific about a software; I look for the answer on Google and Youtube first. Often, I find one method but sometimes I need something more specific.

So I go to my Lynda back office, I type the name of the software I want more info on, then BAM, I find what I’m looking for because of the expert advice.

Lynda.com is great place to learn intricacies about specific software or topic however when I want to get a marketing’s perspective on things, I go listen to successful marketers. Check out my article about “traditional education or specialized education to grow your business” for more information on this topic.

Now if you just want to learn other typical stuff you’d find in traditional schools like science, math, physics etc, but via free online education check out KhanAcademy.org. If you want to see all kinds of science lectures then FreeScienceOnline.blogspot.ca has a lot of them available or learn more about MOOC (Massive Open Online Course).

These are the tools and locations that I use on a daily basis to keep my skills sharp. What about you, where and how do you get your online education?

Positive Thoughts Will Shape Your Future

positive thoughtsIn this positive thoughts article I’ll go over the following questions: “How to stay positive? How to think positive in harder moments? How to stop negative thoughts from creeping in? And how to be more positive overall?”

But first, never under estimate the power of positive thinking. A positive attitude will radiate out into the ether and manifest itself overtime.

The same is true if you have negative thoughts, it will manifest itself. Just mentioning that I can immediate compare myself to some else I know.

I always mentally work hard to keep positive thoughts and I have no idea how but things always work out for me.

A good example of this at work is that in the past, I left a steady, guaranteed, successful career to follow my passion in the movie industry as a stunt performer.

I left everything behind, job security, comfort zone, etc. I re-adjusted my lifestyle and I’ve been living without a guaranteed paycheck since 2010. Somehow, I always seem to get a contract or a work opportunity to generate revenue.

Ever since then, I’ve been able to go on more travelling adventures than the previous 10 years combined. I recently slipped off a mountain into a 30 feet tumble drop and again somehow I walked away with minor scratches and bruises. (You can check out my video about this whole story).

What I’m saying is that my positive thoughts and happy thoughts manifest itself to my advantage in my future. The other person I know has the same power but without realizing it, they manifest negative thoughts and of course the universe responds accordingly. That person doesn’t realize that they are the ultimate shaper of their future through positive thoughts.

Ok, so how to stay positive? First you’ve got to be grateful for what you have and not for what you don’t have. Learn to appreciate the little things in life. Can you think for yourself? Well, appreciate that you can do that and be grateful that.

Can you walk or move around? Can you speak? Do you have access to hot and cold water? Do have something to eat? Answering these questions and many others that you can come up with will allow you to appreciate the little things you take for granted.

Every morning when you wake up be thankful that you do. Every day has the opportunity to be shaped the way you want through the power of positive thinking.

How to think positive in harder moments? Think of the people around you that loves your and care for you. Perhaps you’ll need to re-adjust your perception; it’s easy to assume that sometimes we’re all alone.

But in reality, if you put your negative thought aside and remove the mask you can find at least one person that has your best interest at heart. Think of them, reach out to them.

How to stop negative thoughts from creeping in? It’s inevitable, we are surrounded by negative media or we’ve had bad experiences in the past that can slowly come back and creep on you. Don’t fight it, don’t feel bad, it’s normal.

Sometimes we will see or feel something that trigger a bad memory or a negative thoughts, that’s normal, it’s part of being human. What’s important is how you handle it.

Now that we accept that negative thoughts might pop in here and there, you’ve got to reframe your mind by accepting that this thought came through but that there’s nothing to be alarmed that everything has been dealt with.

Thank your mind trying to protect you and carry on whatever you’re doing. Don’t dwell on the negative thoughts from your past. Imagine your conscious mind is the gate keeper and your subconscious mind is a telemarketer and your person is the boss.

Telemarketers will constantly bombard you with calls, or thoughts and your job as the gate keeper or conscious mind is to filter out what needs to be passed on to the boss, your person.

Whatever is deemed to be important, can be sent to the person so it can be manifested into reality. Everything man made that you see in life started by a thought that was later manifested.

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How to be more positive overall? Well, I’m sure this can be different for a lot of people but for me, the best way to remain positive overall is to accomplish little goals that I give myself. I start small and work my way up.

Every time I accomplish something I feel like I’ve achieved a milestone and it releases some awesome “feel good” chemicals in my brain.

Through positive thoughts I remain grateful for the things I have and finally I give back to the universe by giving value away, help other people, doing volunteer work, etc.

These are my methods on how to be positive as much as possible.

What about you, how can positive thoughts shape your future?

Entrepreneurs Think Differently

Entrepreneurs Think DifferentlyAs a new entrepreneur you’ve got to change your attitude dramatically because when you start any kind of new business, your mindset will determine whether you succeed or fail.

Often new entrepreneurs are coming from a background as an employee and sometimes carry over employee mentality which is not bad, but just not right in the world of entrepreneurs.

When you become your own boss, you have to do work from every department from any previous companies.

Here’s what I mean, as an employee in a big organization, you know your specific skills in either the sales department, human resources, management, technical support, research, content writer, developer, accounting, administration, legal, etc.

All those specific department have enough work to keep lots of people busy for a lifetime and people become specialized in their respective department but as entrepreneur you’ve got to understand the difference between the active and passive workloads.

When you leave this world and put on the hat of an entrepreneur you have to know enough of each department to get by or outsource it to experts. But overall, you have to look and manage the big picture while performing every duty to ensure daily operation runs smoothly. It’s critical to have good work ethics and keep a well balance schedule with excellent time management.

Think of it as if you’re spinning ten plates on a frame in front of you. You constantly got to put a little bit of attention on all of them by giving a little more energy to have it keep spinning whereas if you put all your attention on one plate, the other 9 will slow down until they drop to the ground and break.

The same is true in business. You are entirely responsible for your own success. Win or lose it’s entirely up to you to determine your outcome and you can’t point the finger at anyone else.

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Once you are aware of that, your mind shift will work in your favor. You’ll start reading better material, like Success Magazine, the self-improvement section in your library will become your best friend, you’ll read or listen to audiobooks and absorb new information from other people’s wealth of experience and knowledge.

Whatever resonates with you, you’ll make it yours and whatever you don’t agree with, you’ll accept that everybody’s entitled to their own opinion and that you don’t have to accept everything you learn as true for you.

What about you, what’s the biggest change you’ve noticed when you started to change your mindset? Share your thoughts and comments below.

 

Fear Of Public Speaking Sucks

Fear of Public SpeakingFear of public speaking really sucks but luckily there are a few ways to get around that. Let’s face it, if you are in any business you have to talk to people whether one on one or in front of a large audience.  Especially when you are successful, more and more event organizer will want to have you as a guest speaker to come and share your story or give trainings.  It seems to come with exponential growth. The more you become a leader of influence, the more you’ll be on the stage and at one point or another you’ll have no choice but to tackle on your own fear of public speaking.

Before you get on stage or in front of any audience, know your stuff, I can’t stress that enough.  If you don’t know what you’re talking about it’s going to show in your body language by how uncomfortable you are and people will sense your fear of public speaking.  One of the best thing to do when you know you’re about to “perform” is to outline your speech. Think of it as your story line. You want to be able to have your main structure and be able wonder off a little bit but always coming back to your main story line.

Having a PowerPoint or Keynote point form slide show can be a huge asset to keep you on track. Notice I said point form and not the whole story. You want to convey messages to your audience without boring them by reading long slides. Ideally if you can memorise your whole speech that would be the best case scenario, that way you can fully engage with the audience while you’re delivering your content.

Side Note! When you give a speech to a crowd it is important that they can see your face. Don’t let yourself become distracted by other activity in the room.

You can learn a lot by watching and observing other people perform. A great website to see lots of various guest speakers, from all walks of life who share their personal expertise from every discipline, from science to global issues is TED.com. Essentially TED is a non profit organization that invites the world’s most inspiring people to give powerful talks (usually 18 minutes or less). I actually really enjoy watching them. Some of them will actually share how they beat their fear of public speaking.

Something else you can do if you really want to kick the fear of public speaking is to practise. Yes, practise makes perfect. You can start as little as standing in front of a mirror in your home. You can deliver your speech in front of a camera then watch later and take notes.

If you want more feedback and interacting with other people, then I recommend you check out ToastMasters. Toastmasters International is a world leader in communication and leadership development. There are over 14,000 clubs worldwide, in over 122 countries, so more than likely there’s one near you and they offer learn by doing hands on experiences.

Nothing stops your from doing other forms of public speaking to help you beat your fear of public speaking. When I teach the self defense program in high school for example: I’m using my background as a martial arts instructor yet because I’m in charge to lead the class, the side effects are gaining more experience and becoming better at public speaking. The same would apply if you’re in fitness, a dancer, a realtor or any skill set that you have, if you can share it with someone and teach it, you are public speaking on a small scale.  So don’t get the fear of public speaking get to you.

Fear Of Public Speaking Is Real

Understanding how the body works helps you to defeat the fear of public speaking.  Our bodies natural fear response system came up millions of years ago. So, when you’re afraid, the fight or flight syndrome kicks in. The adrenaline rushes through your body sending all the blood flow to your muscles in order to fight the saber tooth tiger or run away from it.  When that happens there’s less blood flow going to your brain because you’re in survival mode. You’ll notice that by shaking, being fidgety, perhaps wanting to throw up, etc. More about that in the book Crucial Conversations.  Or you can get the Crucial Conversation audiobook version here.

Side Note! Familiarize yourself with the venue where you will speak. If a microphone is not available, discover how well your voice carries.

A few strategies to deal with that state of anxiety is to reassure yourself that you are not in a state of danger that in fact you are in a safe place. If there’s one thing to remember out of all this, it’s how to get back into a relaxed mode and you do that by asking yourself a simple question. Like: “What do I really want?”  By asking that question, you will force the blood flow to go back to your brain and get out of that adrenaline rush state.

It’s best to combine that with breathing exercises. Breathe in and out very slowly, counting to four or five on each inhale and exhale. Do this up to six times and you will feel more relaxed and calm. When you’re brand new at this, it will be a whole roller coaster of emotions but overtime, like anything, you’ll get better at it.

Some public speakers have the ability to be powerful and seems to have no fear of public speaking. If you want to be among the best, implementing what you’ve just learn will help you do that. You can take the bull by the horns and get over your fear of public speaking by applying those tricks. All the best!

What about you, what other techniques did you use to deal with your fear of public speaking?  Share it with us down below.

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